Every parent dreams of seeing their child grow into a happy, independent adult. For parents of children with autism, achieving this goal may take a unique and often challenging journey. While early childhood is filled with therapies, interventions, and structured support, the transition to adulthood can feel like uncharted territory. When school ends at age 21, the path forward for adults with autism often becomes less clear—but there are options and strategies that can help.
What Happens When School Ends?
In the United States, children with autism are eligible for special education services through their school system until they turn 21. These services—like speech therapy, occupational therapy, and Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA)—provide structure and skill-building opportunities. However, once a child ages out of the school system, families are often left scrambling to figure out what comes next.
At this stage, parents may face questions like:
- How can my adult child stay socially engaged?
- Are there job opportunities for individuals with autism?
- What resources are available to maintain structure and growth?
The transition to adulthood can feel overwhelming, but with the right support and resources, it’s possible to create a fulfilling and meaningful life for your child.
Resources for Adults with Autism
The Division of Developmental Disabilities (DDD) is a crucial resource for families of adults with autism. This state-run program offers services like pre-vocational training, job coaching, and community skills development—all at no out-of-pocket cost to families. Many adults also qualify for day programs, which help maintain routine and social interaction.
However, navigating DDD services comes with its challenges. Families must choose a Support Coordinator, whose role is critical in organizing and managing services. Additionally, DDD budgets can be limited, meaning families need to prioritize which services are most important for their child.
Another option for adults with autism is continuing ABA therapy through private insurance. ABA services for adults can focus on building social skills (such as dating or making friends), learning to use public transportation, and practicing safety awareness in public settings. These services can help foster independence while maintaining consistency at home.
Strategies for Parenting Adults with Autism
Parenting an adult with autism presents unique challenges, but there are strategies to help you—and your child—thrive:
1. Prioritize Self-Care
As the saying goes, “You can’t pour from an empty cup.” Parenting is demanding, and when your child becomes an adult, those demands don’t disappear. Take time to care for yourself so you can better support your family. Small self-care rituals, like a short walk, reading a book, or simply enjoying a quiet moment, can help you recharge and reset.
2. Find a Support Group
You are not alone, and connecting with other parents of adults with autism can be life-changing. Support groups provide a space to share challenges, exchange resources, and celebrate victories with others who understand your journey. Look for groups led by professionals who can mediate discussions and offer expert guidance.
At Graham Behavior Services, we offer virtual support groups exclusively for parents of adult children with autism. These groups provide a convenient way to connect, learn, and find encouragement from the comfort of your home.
3. Plan for Social and Vocational Growth
Encourage your child to participate in day programs, job placements, or vocational training. Social engagement is equally important—help your child connect with peers, explore hobbies, and build relationships. Teaching practical life skills, such as grocery shopping or navigating public transportation, can also foster independence.
Embracing the Journey Ahead
Parenting an adult with autism is not without its challenges, but it’s important to remember that you are not alone. Resources like DDD services, private ABA therapy, and support groups can help you and your child navigate this new phase of life. Along the way, prioritize self-care, seek community support, and focus on creating opportunities for your child to grow, connect, and thrive.
At Graham Behavior Services, we are here to support families every step of the way. Whether you need guidance, resources, or just someone to talk to, our team is ready to help. Together, we can create a brighter future for your family.
