Holidays are a joyful time for families to come together. However, for families with a member on the autism spectrum, this season can present unique challenges. Crowded gatherings, changes in routine, and unpredictable events may be difficult for individuals with autism to navigate. So how can all family members participate in holiday festivities? Here are ten strategies that may help:
1. Prepare with Pictures of People
Before a gathering, show your child pictures of the people who will be there. Helping them know who to expect can ease anxiety.
2. Pictures of Locations
Show pictures of the places you will be visiting, such as a restaurant or a relative’s house. If your child becomes anxious from discussing future events, consider sharing these images on the day of the gathering.
3. Prepare with a Schedule
Create a schedule of events for the day. This helps children understand what to anticipate and makes changes in routine easier. You can use a list of words or pictures for each scheduled activity.
4. Be Specific About Event Details
When explaining the holiday plans, provide as much detail as possible. Share the names of the people you will visit instead of just saying you are visiting relatives. Rather than saying, “We are going shopping,” specify which stores you will visit and show them the shopping list.
5. Practice Required Behaviors
Practice behaviors that may be expected during the holidays, such as opening gifts, saying thank you, waiting for others, and giving gifts. Set up scenarios so your child can rehearse these interactions, helping them know what to expect and setting them up for success.
6. Maintain Routines
Although holidays can be hectic, try to keep some routines consistent. Many individuals with autism thrive on routine, so choose what to change carefully and stick with familiar patterns where possible.
7. Bring Preferred Activities
Pack favorite toys or activities to provide familiar comforts and keep your child engaged. If your child enjoys novelty, consider saving new items for unexpected moments to maintain their interest.
8. Have a Break Plan
Social gatherings can be overwhelming, so plan a quiet space where your child can take a break. This could be a room in a relative’s home or even the car, allowing them to engage in a preferred activity for a while.
9. Bring Preferred Foods
If your child is a picky eater, bring familiar foods they enjoy. This helps ensure they can sit at the table with the family during mealtime.
10. Inform Others Ahead of Time:
If you will be visiting others’ homes, let them know what to expect and how they can help create an environment where everyone can participate in the festivities.
If your child is receiving ABA therapy, consult your BCBA on how to best prepare them for the holidays during your therapy sessions. Take time for yourself, and remember to enjoy the holidays! Happy Holidays!
Resources:
McClannahan, L. E., & Krantz, P. J. (1999). Topics in autism: Activity schedules for children with autism: Teaching independent behavior. Bethesda, MD: Woodbine House.
